Reprint of my article published by HealthyPlace.com on Aug. 20th
Your heart races, your body temperature rises, and you feel
ready for an outburst that expresses how angry you really are. You may be
tempted to hold back your anger, but this may not always be the best approach. It
turns out anger has a beneficial side too. This emotion is often hidden or repressed
by some, but it can be helpful and even healthy.
Psychologists examining the expression of anger are finding
that it can help resolve disputes when combined with a proactive approach. When
two people use anger to work towards a solution, rather than to vent about how
they’ve been wronged, anger is actually a positive emotion. Such an approach
can strengthen a relationship as it allows one party to evaluate and express
how he feels. The other party benefits from this as well. When not played out
in a dramatic manner, he gets a better understanding of his partner’s view of
the problem and the two can start towards a negotiation that may lead to
compromise. “This is in contrast to the negative long-term consequences
described by people who felt they were victimized and yet hid their anger from
the perpetrator” say Baumeister, Stillwell and Wotman in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
(Vol. 59, No. 5).
Everyday anger is beneficial outside the home as well. It
can decrease feelings of uncertainty on the national front. In 2001, Dr.
Larissa Tiedens of Stanford University published a paper in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
citing four studies that found evidence for people granting more status to
politicians who express anger than to politicians who express sadness or guilt.
Just think back to the events following 9/11 and recall the leadership with
which Rudolph Giuliani, then mayor of New York empowered the people to feel
less fearful. President George W. Bush also used anger to rally the troops and
empower people following the attack. A clear expression of anger is seen as
powerful and prepares people for action.
Additionally, feelings of certainty and optimism as a
positive outcome following anger were evidenced and measured in scientific
literature by social psychologists Jennifer Lerner, Roxanna Gonzales, Deborah
Small and Baruch Fischoff from Carnegie Mellon University. Their study,
published in the March, 2003 issue of Psychological
Science, examined the responses of the public during two stages following
the 9/11 attacks. The first stage took place nine days following the attacks.
As a baseline, 1786 people were assessed regarding their feelings about the
event and their levels of stress, anxiety and desire for revenge. Two months
later, as stage two of their study, Lerner and colleagues primed 973
participants to feel angry, fearful or sad. The different groups had different
reactions. More specifically, those primed to feel angry were found to give
more realistic and optimistic assessments of 25 terrorist-related risks
compared to the participants primed to feel fearful. In this way, angry people
feel more in control and have a higher degree of certainty than fearful people.
Anger can also help promote justice without resorting to
violence. In fact, anger reduces violence, even when it precedes it. Imagine
how different the world would be without the angry words and actions that
brought about change when Martin Luther King Jr. fought for civil rights in the
1960’s or when women were advocating for the right to vote and be seen as
equals in society. In this way, anger motivates change.
In addition to reducing domestic and national disputes,
improving relationships, and lubricating negotiations, anger can also be
beneficial to health. When used constructively, anger benefits heart patients
who have problems with hostility. According to one analysis by Davidson and
colleagues published in Health Psychology
(2000), anger helps these patients
maintain their resting blood pressure. Constructive anger is a way to resolve a
problem when the person expressing it is justified and presents his
frustrations to the wrongdoer. By contrast, anger is not constructive, that is
to say it is destructive, when it is used to confront someone or vent bad
feelings.
We can all benefit from recognizing the positive sides of
anger. Anger puts us in touch with our point of view, allows us to feel more in
control and can be the first step towards negotiating a solution to a problem.
It motivates, alleviates uncertainty, reduces violence and hostility and can
even be good for your heart. So don’t be so quick to discount anger as a
negative emotion or hide it behind a ‘grin and bear it’ attitude.
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